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June 20, 2011

Father’s Day

This Father’s Day, I am grateful that Jacob has for a father a man of faith, humility, hard work, integrity, humor, and most of all, love.  Watching John interact with Jacob sets my heart on fire with gratitude for how good God has been to me.  I love these boys more than anything, and I count my blessings every day.

 

 

When I was in the card store last week, I was reminded that Father’s Day isn’t simply about fathers in the stricter sense:  it’s about grandfathers, uncles, godfathers, and friends.  And I am so grateful to recognize that Jacob has people in each of these categories to look up to, to lean on, and to love.

 

Lucky boy that he is, Jacob has two incredible grandfathers—who love him to pieces, and four wonderful uncles—who are all living their dreams (entrepreneur, brewer, poker player, actor) and, in their own ways, being an example to him of how to be a good, strong man.  If that weren’t enough, he also has a godfather who is one of the most charitable people on the planet.

 

In the unique group of people we’ve come to call friends over the last year in Brooklyn, there are a host of new fathers who are advancing professionally in ways that require more time outside of the office, while still making family life (and our monthly wine tastings) work.  These are guys with perspective, priorities, goals, and the strength and determination to make their dreams come true, whether they are in the fields of architecture, finance, or higher education.

 

When I look at Jacob, I see the many things he might become in his life.  And when I look around him this Father’s Day, I see the men who will show him the way.

 

 

Thank God for families, thank God for sons, thank God for fathers!

 

May 27, 2011

An Early Father’s Day for This Mama

Although it’s still a few weeks away, I’m already thinking about Father’s Day.  It’s the same week as John’s birthday (my favorite secular holiday of the year), which means the third week of June is a double-celebration for us from now until the end of time.  And considering I plan dinners and weekend desserts at least a week ahead of time, you can imagine when I start planning for double John celebrations.

But before we look forward, we must always look back, right?

Dreams of steaks and sweet treats aside, last night I had a moment that made me grateful all over again for the blessing of my two favorite guys in my life.  Come with me into my memories, please.  Don’t worry, I’m not going to go all Inception on you or anything.

Jacob went to sleep early because he missed a nap, so John didn’t get a chance to hang out with him in the evening.  When this happens, we anxiously await a cry for a diaper change so that John can have some face time with the little man, even if it is in the dark.  As I sat in the glider waiting to nurse our Peanut, I remembered a very special moment from just after Jacob was born.

If I think back to brand-new Jacob, the image in my mind is this photo:

I was in a non-clinical kind of shock after he was born.  Although I remember seeing his feet in the doctor’s hands, I can barely remember the first time I saw the little guy’s face.  What I do remember is that as I held him, with John standing over us both, John gently asked, “Can I hold him?”  And it was a moment I don’t know that I have the words to describe.  Yes, I was “meeting” this little person to whom I had been physically connected since he came into existence.  Seeing and holding him was a brand new and amazing experience, for sure.

But somehow I had the presence of mind to put myself in John’s shoes for a moment.  He had felt Jacob kick and he knew the ins and outs of my pregnancy, but holding Jacob was a whole new ball game for him in a different way than it was for me.  Touching our baby, holding him, was something he’d waited for in a physically disconnected way.  There was so much love in his patient waiting, and in the serenely joyful way he asked me for a chance to hold our little guy in his arms.  He was then, and is now, a completely natural father.

I am so grateful that Jacob has John as a dad.  And I am so grateful that I have him as my partner in parenthood.

Every day is Father’s Day in these parts.  But don’t think that doesn’t mean I’ve got a heck of a dessert in mind for the “real” holiday!

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